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Ancient Greek sexuality did not reflect the lofty and high ideas discussed by the great thinkers and philosophers of its time. When it came to defining sexual attitudes, it was Socrates who first noted that there were three distinct appetites among women. Each comprised about thirty percent of the population: Wives, Prostitutes and Hetaerae. In this very patriarchal society, there was very little equality among the sexes.
Ancient Greek sexuality generally regarded women as chattel, a bartering collateral for families to increase their wealth and position in this male dominated society.
A woman had no say in who she would marry. Her father decided. It is no wonder that many Greek women had no interest in sexual pleasure.
If her father was deceased, then her brother would decide her marital choice. It was only when all the males in her childhood had passed on that, if she still wasn’t married, that she could make any decisions regarding her own life.
Female children were usually betrothed at infancy and married at very early ages, many as young as 12 or 13 years old, to men as old as 30 years their senior. When the men became senior citizens, they’d have a young wife to take care of them.
According to Socrates, women with the wife mentality generally did not like having sex. They succumbed to continue the family bloodline and as their duty. Considering she didn't have a choice in who would be her husband, it is easy to understand why this woman preferred to stop having sex as soon as her children were born.
Without any emotional ties to him their relationship was less than forthright. He usually betrayed it by having sex with prostitutes.
Today about one third of women still have the wife attitude. Sex is seen as an obligation to make babies. As soon as this chore is over, they cease interest in sexual relations.
Prostitution originally began in the brothels. But as women realized that sex could be bartered within relationships, they started using it their sexual favors to earn a living, or just as a means of survival.
Women with the Prostitute mentality didn’t particularly like having sex. For them was just the price they had to pay to survive. Today, at least thirty percent of the female population has this prostitute mentality in their intimate relationship.
They don't stand on corners or work in brothels, but they still choose a partner because of what he can get for them; security, money, or property. The prostitute attitude has remained from the days of ancient Greek sexuality into the present.
The third sexual attitude was called Hetaerae which literally means, ‘the other woman’. She actually enjoyed sex and used her appreciation of it to elevate herself within the society.
Some of the most influential men in ancient Greek history had a companion that was Hetaerae. A confidante, sounding board, friend, and lover, she used her intuition to warn him of treachery, engage his intellect, and keep him sexually satisfied like no other.
These Hetaerae were and still are the most sought after women in history. Today, only about thirty percent of women still have the Hetaerae attitude and continue to make the best lovers.
Ancient Greek sexuality defined the attitudes and appetites of women. Today those descriptions are still very relevant as they help us understand our choice in a lover.