Art of Sexual Pleasure

Making love is the art of sexual pleasure. It cannot be compared with getting nailed, getting laid or even just having sex. It certainly is not ‘getting screwed’ or ‘getting f**ked’. Sexual pleasure is an art is when the participants realize that there is more to it than just the basics for procreation.

In our very rushed society, we rarely enjoy the art of sexual pleasure because we’re all in such a big hurry. What we end up with are quickies, which seems satisfying at the moment. But if you look a little further, you realize that more times than not, both participants are not that satisfied. And, in the long run, men who have quick orgasms usually end up with prostate problems.

The average woman needs about 20 minutes of physical and mental stimulation in order to have enough blood in her genitals to even be able to have an orgasm.

If foreplay and intercourse combined takes less than ten minutes, she hasn’t had enough time so she is unable to have an orgasm, which is especially a shame, since women are multi-orgasmic, given enough time.

Would you expect to be able to paint a masterpiece in five minutes? Could you write a book in less than an hour? Could you compose a symphony or write a song in ten minutes? Do you perfect the dance or the yoga postures in one hour?

Anything worth doing is worth doing well and that takes practice. We don’t expect instant results in those arts. Why expect anything less in the living art of making love? We expect our world and needs to be instant. We enjoy instant tea, instant coffee, instant oatmeal, and instant information. We expect the same from our sex lives. But sex was never meant to be rushed or instant.

According to the Kama Sutra, written by a holy man in ancient India, when love-making is best, foreplay takes about 4 hours. We may not have 4 hours, but we cannot ignore this most sacred advice and wonder why we are less than satisfied.

At its best, making love is a leisurely affair. When we take time to relax, we can build to a dynamic explosion. When we rush, we have, instead, a minor release of sexual tension, no where near the level of satisfaction that our body is capable of achieving. Just like any other art, you cannot be considered an artist if you don’t have the tools to create your craft. A singer has their voice, a painter their canvas and paints, and an actor their emotions and body.

So too, the art of sexual pleasure has its tools of lotions, oils, candles, adult toys, fantasy and imagination to make each session the most beautiful, exciting and memorable that it can be.

Sex is no longer regarded merely as an animalistic act for procreating by joining genitals; it is an art where both participants are excited, satisfied, happy, and have mutually enjoyed the experience, because they have spent time incorporating sensuality with sexuality.

Our skin is our largest organ. Through our five senses we enjoy all of the pleasures of life. If we are enjoying a massage, for instance, it is best when some kind of lubricant is on the skin to allow hands to glide over the body, instead of causing drag and uncomfortable friction.

If our relations have become predictable so that the mind is bored, adding imagination and fantasy to the mix makes the time spent fun, funny, with anticipation of what’s to come. When all the ingredients are combined, you truly have the art of sexual pleasure, which is one of the greatest gifts we as humans can enjoy.