Fantasies and sensual massage for wife

by Carlos
(Houston, TX, USA)

You mentioned the best sensual massage you ever had was in Houston...I need to know where (including the lady's name) it was in Houston, to offer it to my wife. She and I have been married over 30 years, but both are still rather good looking. However, I think we need to spice our relationship, and I've been introducing her to very sexy fantasies (I'll detail them some other time if you wish me to; they involve other women and men...), which she loves a lot. But she's hesitant to open up further, even at the level of acknowledging her strong positive reaction to the fantasies (she likes them but doesn't externalize it with words...I naturally notice her positive reaction, but she still feels "guilty" about it). I want her to open up to a broader world of the senses, so I want her to have a 2-3 hour session with the right lady for a "coming out of her shell" massage, perhaps even in two sections (the second one could include tantric massage depending on the communication and chemistry between the 2 of them).

I will be glad to send you pics (even sexy ones -- artistic of course -- if you want, but first dressed) if you wanted me too.

I hope to hear from you soon. We live in Houston, TX. I truly look forward to hearing soon from you...

Carlos

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by: Ellen

I hear tell the best sensual massage was in Houston. I need to know where to offer it to my wife. She and I have been married over 30 years, and are still fit and attractive. That alone is not enough to keep the libido hot. We need to spice up our relationship. I've been introducing her to very sexy fantasies which involve other women and men...), which she loves a lot.

She's hesitant to open up further, even at the level of acknowledging her strong positive reaction to the fantasies (she likes them but doesn't externalize it with words) I notice her positive reaction to what she’s feeling, but she still feels "guilty" about it).

I want her to open up to a broader world of the senses, so I want her to have a 2-3 hour session with the right lady for a "coming out of her shell" massage. Perhaps even in two sections (the second one could include tantric massage depending on the communication and chemistry between the 2 of them).


If I understand this guy correctly, he wants to help his wife ‘come out of her shell’ to open up to a broader world of the senses sexually and sensually speaking (but it sounds like he wants somebody else to do take her there).

Whatever they’ve been doing to keep their embers of passion hot has become predictable and boring. They need change. Even if they love each other passionately, if the imagination isn’t stoked, it is easy to fall into the problem of ‘same dick, different day’, which for many couples is the mindset that spells doom for the sex life.

Creating fantasy is the crux of having great sex especially throughout a long, monogamous relationship. I have always maintained that the source of the orgasm is the mind. If your mind is excited, there's a good chance your cooch will cum. If your mind is NOT excited due to predictability in any way, shape or form, it will be very difficult (and even a little unreasonable) to expect your genitals to get excited and reach orgasm.

It’s really easy to do well-worn techniques, the same positions, in the same place day after day and year after year. Sex just becomes another ‘convenience’. To grow as lovers who desire great sex, it’s essential to keep sex attractive, fun, and exciting. Through the many years of fidelity it becomes a greater challenge, especially if fantasy and romance have been put on the back-burner and allowed to fall by the wayside.

How we choose to excite the cooch depends on many things. But central to each is the newness of the idea, transformed into a sensual reality where all five senses (touch, sight, smell, taste and sound) are stimulated simultaneously. Sometimes it can be as simple as holding your partner gently in your arms and swaying to distant music.

Spontaneous loving in a warm embrace, inhaling their natural perfume, kissing the moment calls for deeper a connection, all do wonderful things to stimulate the libido. Don’t make it complicated but do make it spontaneous. Consider possible scenarios in your imagination and then look for them to materialize. Spontaneity is essential.

This fellow wants a professional to give his wife a sensual massage that could possibly end up with her joining in divine union with another. That could easily backfire! If she experiences Tantra with another, now she knows something he doesn’t know, which she’ll want and he won’t be able to give her.

Plus Tantra is what happens between 2 people who love each other so deeply that their connection through sexuality is the most intense experience between them. When you share something so beautiful with your partner, something that takes time, technique, and timing, you are elevating your physical expression of love to recognizing your divine self through mingling of sexual energies. There’s nothing more gratifying in the world.

Offering to take your wife to a masseuse who would ‘take her out of her shell’ is very risky for the couple’s bond because now she knows something he doesn’t and if he isn’t willing to learn, and she craves it, he won’t be able to satisfy that need of hers. For many, it spells the beginning of the end of their relationship.

I recommend that he look into DVD tapes of what Tantric Sex is, then share the viewing with his wife to initiate an honest, open, loving discussion on whether they want to take their lovemaking to a divine and spiritual level. Tantric Sex is powerful in more ways than one!

If he takes those steps with an open and loving heart, he will be helping himself and his wife grow as lovers. If he just finds a masseuse to take her to ‘heaven and back’, I can’t see how that experience will help his image. If anything, she may realize that he is basically a selfish (possibly lazy) lover who has relied on his looks and her loyalty to keep their sex life alive. That could be dangerous…

This fellow also mentions that his wife has feelings of guilt for admitting that she enjoys the fantasies that her husband proposes. If all they are is fantasies, I highly recommend that she leaves her religious dogma outside of her bedroom and allow her fantasy to get swept up in the scenarios her husband is suggesting to start a flame of passion that not only ignites their minds, but their genitals as well. People hold onto feelings of guilt to absolve themselves of a pleasure they think they’re not supposed to enjoy. And that guilt over pleasure is the domain of many religions.

If one partner wants his partner to have sex with another person, not just in their imagination but in person, unless their bond is based on deep abiding love, it won’t last.

People often feel betrayed by their partner, even if they have their partner’s permission, if they have sex with another person. It is a built-in guilt trip propagated by almost every religion since the beginning of religion. (Actually very difficult to psychologically overcome). So if he wants her to experience the joy without the guilt, he needs to stoke her imagination and leave any other partners out of it.

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