Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety

Overcoming sexual performance anxiety happens when you realize that this insecurity is caused by lack of information and poor training.

When learning a skill, you rely on proper information. If the information you've received is sketchy or delivered as shameful, it’s normal to get nervous. Nervousness tenses up the body.


If you’re stressed, the body is in a “fight or flight” mode. That’s the worst time to have sex.

Trying to get aroused when your body is rebelling, is working against nature. Sex is at its best is when there are no worries, fears or anxieties.

We teach ourselves how to have an orgasm during the formative teenage years. Young males, who taught themselves to orgasm quickly for fear of getting caught, establish that as their habit.

So strong is its message for instant gratification that mental control alone it is not enough to change its dynamics. Control can only be achieved through practice, patience and perseverance.


Negative self talk affects sexual performance. Consciously or subconsciously believing you’re lacking somehow convinces your body that your fear is based on something real, so it reacts accordingly.

For men, this fear manifests itself either as the inability to achieve an erection and/or as premature ejaculation. Both of these conditions can be treated naturally and effectively with self-knowledge and relaxation.



Expectations based on unsatisfying past experiences also cause sexual performance anxiety. Anxiety can be rectified by living in the NOW. Bringing the past into the present and worrying about the future actually causes problems.


Instead of conjuring up a scenario that is less than satisfying, consider including romance and sensuality in your scenario.

Thinking about being nice to another is the easiest way to help you relax.

It sounds almost too good to be true, but your attitude has a lot to do with the outcome.




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