Senior Health Sexuality
Over 75% of the population will eventually become seniors, and to think that we may no longer enjoy our sexuality or believe that it will eventually become a problem is stressful, to say the least. Seniors, like everyone else, should enjoy a rich, satisfying sex life, whether they have a partner to share it with, or not. Shame, embarrassment or guilt should not be part of equation, no matter what anyone says. As long as you’re healthy enough to enjoy sex, you should continue. In fact, enjoying your sex life, consistently from youth into your senior years will help reduce stress, reverse the aging process, and keep your aerobic, cardiovascular and muscular systems working properly because you’re working them, and all without medication. What could be better? The reward for your efforts is usually an orgasm, God’s greatest physical gift to us. Your body responds to your care for it. Stop using parts and those parts stop working. The old saying “Use it or lose it” could never be truer, especially when it comes to our sexuality. Even after a partner dies, when the mourning is over, masturbation should be included daily to keep the ravages of time at bay. Just because there’s no one there to take care of you doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take care of yourself! One of the best habits for self care and keeping your body healthy is a self massage every day. Using a quality sesame oil, and starting with the head, gently rub it in from your scalp to your face, down to your shoulders, arms, torso, hips, legs and feet. On the long bones use an up and down motion. At the joints and on the scalp, use a circular motion. This process encourages your body to produce healthy hormones that fight free radicals, which contribute to aging. By taking time to love yourself, you prevent problems. The biggest concern with seniors is that unless they’ve kept up their fitness and flexibility, over time the body stiffens up, and positions that were once possible are only a fantasy today. Add medications for the plethora of other senior ailments, and your libido can take a real beating. To compensate, concentrate more on touching. Touch has been given such a dubious reputation over the years that people are hesitant to touch one another. And yet, it is the most necessary sense that we humans enjoy. Contact with another human is warm, loving, connects us on a physical and mental plane, and generates good feelings. For senior health sexuality to thrive, it could use a good dose of touch for its physical and mental benefits. When we don’t touch, we emotionally shrivel up inside and then eventually, outside. When we touch, we are awakened to our body’s potential for pleasure. Affection, shown carefully and deliberately through touching, is far more satisfying than trying Herculean positions, swinging from a chandelier, or being goal oriented. One of the most important exercises that seniors can do to help themselves enjoy their sexuality is to practice Kegel exercises everyday. For women, the Kegels help repair the pelvic floor which supports many of her internal organs, and has the fastest recuperative power out of any muscle in the body. By doing the exercises, she’s helping to keep her vagina strong, toned and sensitive, better able to increase the blood flow that leads to orgasm. For men, Kegel exercises help him achieve a stronger, longer lasting erection. Start by doing 10 Kegels, increasing to 20, and every day add another 10 until you can do 300 Kegels, which should take approximately 5 – 6 minutes. These exercises are extremely important for internal health, preventing or curing urinary incontinence and increasing sexual desire and ability. Rather than being goal-oriented toward having an orgasm, let the goal be closeness, kissing, massage and genuine affection. Without worrying about achieving an erection, vaginal dryness or having an orgasm, let affection lead the way toward better senior health sexuality.
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