Sensuality - Enjoying the pleasures of life
On the front lines explaining erotica, I've met countless women who have indicated, in no uncertain terms, how important sensuality is in caring for themselves. Not given its due of importance, many now realize how crucial it is. For pleasure to exist, we must integrate it into as many levels of our lives as we can. Not just because it feels good but for how good it is for us! We need to learn how to relax and rejuvenate as essentials to good health. But often these essentials for joyous living are considered unnecessary luxuries. My personal belief is that the closer we stay to natural pleasures, the better it is for us in the long run. Natural cures abound within the body and are accessed with meditation, self massage and masturbation. If you could cure your stress, anxiety, pain and depression, would you? Well you can, but it’ll take an openness to grow as a lover of life. Many equate sensuality as only being expressed via sexuality. If you examine the definition, sensuality is appreciation of the senses, heightened. It is expressed as a pleasant emphasis to the senses--whether through taste, touch, sight, smell or sound. Sensuality is an enjoyment of all the senses, not only touch. Once we accept that, we can start developing all of our natural gifts and their healing properties. De-stressing naturally with sensual massage rather than relying on pills can add a beneficial level of calm and awareness to our sense of well-being. Stimulated senses are a different reality from the mundane or predictable. When you combine sensuality with sexuality, it’s like adding different spices to a favorite food. Even if you loved that particular food, you’d get bored with it if it was the only meal you ever ate for the rest of your life. That’s the boredom that happens to a predictable sex life. By adding sensual spice (imagination) to the intimate relationship, it keeps us interested, excited and better able to be satisfied. Balancing both physical and emotional appetites can be tricky. If being sensual isn’t enough to satisfy you sexually, your desire doesn’t just go away. It goes to other appetites to be satisfied, such as the sense of taste. This ‘comfort eating’ has become so commonplace, that the resulting epidemic of obesity is a problem we can no longer ignore. Sensual freedom comes from recognizing your appetites and satisfying them appropriately. Once you whet your appetites, you must satisfy them with a variety of tastes, smells and sights. Your body, figuratively speaking, is a feast for the senses. Our sensual knowledge is the spice. In particular, sexuality without sensuality becomes routine, unsatisfying and the death of romance. Lack of romance translates into lack of consideration, which often signals the end of a relationship. Is it surprising that the divorce rate is so high? Understanding its importance, we must embrace our sensual needs and satisfy them. Whatever form that satisfaction takes, include sensuality as often as possible. By doing so, you’ll enjoy your humanness, your need for connection and your body’s ability to naturally self medicate as needs arise.
Developing a Sensual Relationship
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