Sex for Pleasure

Since the beginning of recorded history, sex for pleasure has been the exception, not the rule. Even in committed, monogamous relationships, we are embarrassed to express our needs, seek our pleasure, to try something different for fear that we’ll be regarded as kinky. We are afraid that to seek pleasure will make us hedonists, something less than serious, grounded, normal people.

We teach our young that sexual urges are something to be wary of, ignored for as long as possible, and saved until the day that we are married. Of course, what they don’t tell you is what to do with those urges if you don’t get married.

That attitude is still taught today and it is one of the greatest reasons that humans are so sexually distraught, confused, dysfunctional and repressed. What if you never want to have children? What if you’re gay or unable for some reason? Does that mean you should never have sex?




The sexual relationship is one of the greatest experiences we can enjoy. It is healthy, rejuvenating, life affirming and for many, a means of communing with their God essence.

After all, God made all of us—-not just heterosexuals who want to procreate. God doesn’t make mistakes.

If you believe that you are a creation of God, how can you believe that your design, with all these fantastic erogenous zones and its incredible potential for bliss wasn’t meant to be pleasurable?

What was that--a test to see how long we can deny our sexual needs? Who benefits from such a denial?

The only people who benefit from your denial of your true sexual self are psychiatrists when they bilk you for thousands of dollars in therapy while helping you find out why you are so depressed.

To understand how we came to this ambiguity about sexual relations, you have to look back thousands of years.

In their attempt to control the population, religious institutions began to teach that sex for pleasure was a sin, and the only time sex was alright was when it was for procreation.

Does that mean if you don’t want children or are unable to have them that your sexual urges are unimportant and should be ignored? Is this a healthy? Repressing your sexual urges doesn’t alleviate them. Repression leads to depression.

And yet, millions of individuals do just that everyday. Without a partner they pretend they don’t have sexual needs or desires, and so for years, go without.


Having sex just for pleasure is the unique ability of humans. All other creatures compete for sex as a natural urge. They’ll even risk their very life to secure that their gene pool goes forward. It is that essential.

It is the same essential need for us. The difference is that we can have sex for pleasure. We were blessed with creative imagination so that any of our needs, whether they be for food or sex, can be pleasurable.

By adding variety, sensual toys, imagination and creativity to our sexual unions, we make them the most joyous union of all.



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