Sexual Communication

Sexual Communication is as necessary a part of sexual satisfaction as knowing where the erogenous zones are and how to use them.

Your voice and the groans, moans, squeals, growls and encouraging remarks it makes are all part of the orgasmic experience. When an explosive orgasmic release is imminent, whatever natural sounds come from the depths of your being should be released. In that way, you are able to enjoy the orgasm, fully.

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Erolalia, a termed coined by Dr. Robert Chartham in his ground-breaking book The Sensuous Couple, makes reference to how important it is to allow all of our natural sounds out during coitus so as to be able to enjoy a full, deep, and satisfying orgasm.

He explains, “by trying to control my vocalizing, it made my body rigid and taut, and the orgasm sensations themselves were so much less intense that they were hardly worth the effort.”

Imagine the orgasm as a whole, made up of parts. There is the sight of our loved one or object of desire, the scent that draws us in, the exciting touches, the taste of your lover’s skin, lips and genitals.

When all of those senses combine for heightened orgasmic pleasure, sounds of appreciation are the natural end result. Orgasm includes all five senses; no less the sense of sound.



Essentially, without allowing sound, all the other senses are stifled. It’s like getting on a locomotive, building steam, speed, and pressure. Finally, when you’re at full throttle, and the whistle is about to blow, the tracks are pulled out from underneath, leaving a crash and burn of unsatisfied passion.

Without the natural end result of explosive noise, none of the other processes can fully be appreciated or brought to fruition. When you stifle or limit your voice, you also stifle your body’s ability to enjoy the orgasm.


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