Sexual Compatibility

Sexual appetites and sexual compatibility are synonymous concepts.

The same way we don't have the same desire for the same kinds foods or amount of food, neither do we have the same appetite for sex. Some women have a naturally robust appetite while others are picky eaters.

The same goes for sexual appetites. While some women enjoy sex tremendously, others have it under obligation, while others have it merely as a bartering tool to acquire material needs.

Finding someone with whom you have sexual compatibility is easy enough if you're honest about your own appetite. It's not a good idea to judge your desire according to national standards.

That usually leaves people feeling somewhat inadequate. What works for you is influenced by your upbringing, your genes, and the personal examples of your parents.

When it comes to women's sexual appetites, there are three basic ones. These were identified long ago in ancient Greece by Socrates, and if you listen carefully, you can see that his observations are still relevant today. Women's appetites are described as wife, prostitute and hetaerae. The wife's attitude is represented by women who only want sex to make a family. It is not the sexual act that brings them pleasure, only the resulting pregnancy, children and satisfying the husband's needs.

Once the baby-making phase of their lives is over, their interest in sex dwindles dramatically. Clearly thirty percent of women have this ‘wife’ attitude.

The prostitute's attitude also makes up about thirty percent of the female population. Sex is a bartering tool for material gain. As a society, we say prostitutes are women who work off of street corners, high priced call girls or cheap hookers.

But the prostitute mentality of trading sex for material comforts pervades the female psyche. Many ‘upstanding’, socially upscale women in prominent positions in life have it.

Sex is seen, not so much for its pleasure, as merely a way of getting what they want; security for themselves and their children. Sexual satisfaction is secondary to what the sex act can do for them in achieving their goals. The third sexual appetite among women is the Hetaerae (pronounced ha-ter-ay). Hetaerae actually enjoy sex and all of its benefits. They would never use it for bartering, and although children can be a result of their pleasure, they are not the driving force to have sex.

Hetaerae women are lusty, exciting, and for some men, sexually difficult to please. They will not tolerate a selfish lover, no matter how much money he makes. When it comes to men's sexual compatibility and matching it to a female who will appreciate his desire and abilities, deciphering his level of sexual appetite is a little more difficult.

The majority of young men start out wanting as much sex as possible in their teens and early twenties, but by the time they're in their thirties, other interests divert their energies and time, making sex less of a priority.

The myth is that all men want sex, all of the time. That is simply not true. Men also have varying sexual appetites, and just like women, they vary by circumstance, age, health issues, and parental example.

Among men, there are three basic types of lovers. The less than seasoned lover is the one who orgasms quickly and makes no apology for it. His best choices for sexual compatibility are either the wife or prostitute. Since sexual satisfaction is not her goal, his lack of control or need for variety is never an issue.

For men who enjoy variety in sexual play, along with toys, lotions, and fantasy, his sexually compatible match is Hetearae. He enjoys foreplay and want to learn as much as he can, realizing fully well that every woman's needs are different. Her satisfaction is always his goal.

And for men who make a lot of money and whose own pleasure is all-important, with foreplay taking less than ten minutes before orgasm happens, prostitute or wife are the best sexually compatible choices. When it comes to sexual compatibility, the best advice is to know and accept yourself as you are. Don't try to change your partner from how they really are or believe they'll change into how you want them to be.

Once you recognize whether you have sexual compatibility based on similar sexual needs, you can make an informed decision as to whether it'll be a relationship based on true compatibility, rather than on hopes of how it could be.

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