Orgasm literally means to swell, to be lustful. Of all the greatest pleasures in life, there is none healthier, more life-affirming than this greatest physical experience. After releasing the physical sexual tension we experience aftermath. Aftermath is a state of total relaxation. You feel alive, elated, peaceful, euphoric, free from all tension. That explosion of sexual energy releases natural endorphins which resulted in peace and contentment.
There is nothing else like it. Nothing is healthier or better for you. Why then do we have such convoluted feelings regarding this pleasure?
This life affirming habit is important for maintaining good mental and physical health. Fortunately, there are so many different kinds that we’ll never get bored making them happen.
Since we are covered with erogenous zones, it stands to reason that we are meant to have as much pleasure as they can afford us. Why would we have all these hot spots if not to enjoy them? The clitoris in particular is solely for sexual pleasure.
If we could only separate all of the controversial and emotional baggage from this fantastic experience we'd be well on our way to becoming whole, responsible beings meant for bliss.
Both men and women can enjoy several distinct kinds of sexual explosions that can be enjoyed singly or blended. Whether we enjoy our sex lives or not is our choice that is influenced by parents, society, religion and misinformation.
For women exquisite pleasure can be produced by stroking the body from the top of the head to the soles of the feet in a technique known as pattes d'araignee.
For purposes of this paper, I'll stick with the well known sexual releases that are commonly achieved via the clitoris, vagina or a combination of the two.
Among women clitoral orgasm is the most common. Being on the outside of her body, it is easier to find than the G Spot, so easier to stimulate.
G-spot orgasms are more rare, can be multiple, ejaculatory and last a lot longer, but for many are more difficult to achieve. To learn how to have one, read Ben Wa Orgasm. When clitoral and vaginal orgasms are combined, this is known as ‘blended’.
Ninety percent of women have sexual climaxes regularly, ten percent never do. Of that ninety percent, the overwhelming majority have clitoral climaxes, and only five percent have vaginal or G-Spot O's with any kind of regularity.
Since the G-Spot is inside the vagina it is not easily located. About the size of a dime, it swells to the size of a quarter and protrudes from the vaginal wall during sexual release.
But since its size and location varies, sometimes its very existence is called into question. Because of this ongoing controversy, it’s just easier to go with clitoral stimulation and pleasure.
The normal sexual release for men is via the penis. Sexual tension builds up. An explosion of energy happens. Then ejaculate comes squirting out. For men the blended sexual release is the combination of penis and prostate being simultaneously stimulated and the pleasurable sensations emanating from both.
Normally, ejaculation is considered his sexual climax. But contrary to popular belief, that inner explosion happens a nanosecond before the ejaculate. The ejaculate is the end result of the explosion--the physical proof, but it is not a sexual release of tension.
Ejaculation is not proof of sexual satisfaction. Rubbing his prostate during a rectal exam can produce the same results.
Men can have a sexual release without ejaculation. By recycling energy through the prostate and not ejaculating, it keeps his power from being depleted. He too can have multiples!
Unfortunately, because of our societal prejudice about any kind of anal penetration, the majority of Westerners will never seek that pleasure, having dubbed it unnatural.
All sexual releases are not the same in intensity. Some may be powerful, others weak. For the man, it all depends on how long he’s maintained his erection during foreplay, if his prostate has been directly or indirectly stimulated, and the refractory period between ejaculations. Medications, stress, fatigue and alcohol consumption will also influence the intensity.
I believe that every orgasm is a gift. You may or may not agree with this statement, but I don’t think there is a more direct physical connection to the creative force within us all. Enjoy one today!