Sensuality, that is, enjoying the senses for adult pleasures, is a unique gift afforded to human beings. It is the icing on our need to procreate that makes it so much more fun than just getting it done.
In my unique career as a Sensuality Consultant I've met countless women who have indicated, in no uncertain terms, how important their sensual life is to achieve any level of sexual satisfaction. Ignored by many as trivial as compared to home and responsibilities, many now realize how empty their lives are without it. For pleasure to exist, we must integrate it into as many levels of our lives as we can. Not just because it feels good but because it is good for us.
In my many years interviewing clients, I’ve heard many questions regarding sensuality and its role in our sexual lives. How important is it to keep the embers of passion burning? Do we have to go above and beyond the basics every time we make love, or is Sensuality like a rare and delectable spice that we only use on holidays? Is it hedonistic to take time and make love or absolutely necessary?
It is obvious that in our stressed society, our collective spirit has needs and desires that have gone unmet. It is time we learn how to relax and rejuvenate as essentials to good health. It is time we put the brakes on and took time to enjoy the essentials for joyous living.
My personal belief is that the closer we stay to natural pleasures, the better it is for us in the long run. Massage, soaking in water, stretching, eating simply, listening to soothing music, watching and listening to the beauty of nature when possible, smelling flowers and herbs that resonate with our needs and vibrations all help to keep us in balance. Natural cures abound within the body and around it. Accessed via meditation, self massage and masturbation, by getting in touch with ourselves we get in touch with our healing.
If you could cure your stress, anxiety, pain and depression, would you? Learning how to let go of stress naturally with massage rather than pills can add a beneficial level of calm and awareness to our well-being with no unpleasant side-effects. Joy and peace are within you. Are you willing to slow down, open your mind and grow as a lover of life?
Many believe you can only be sensual when you’re being sexual. The actual definition is appreciation of the senses, heightened. It is expressed as a pleasant emphasis--whether through taste, touch, sight, smell or sound. Its enjoyment includes all the senses. Once we understand that, we can start developing all of our natural gifts and their healing properties.
Embrace your inner lover and explore ways to satisfy your sensual longing. Whatever form that satisfaction takes, include sensuality as often as possible. By doing so, you’ll enjoy your humanness, your need for connection and your body’s ability to naturally self medicate as needs arise.